The second post of my Equals Record column, "Looking Forward," went live yesterday. (The Equals Record is the brainchild of Elisabeth Fraser and Miya Hirabayashi, and features a diverse array of women's voices on a wide variety of topics.) My column focuses on my life and the challenges - and joys! - of growing up. This week, I wrote about over-thinking.
An excerpt from the new post: "I read a passage from Charles Bukowski’s Factotum a few weeks ago that made me laugh. Then, when I finished laughing, I wrote it down, cut it out, and taped it to my wall. 'If you’re going to try, go all the way,' it reads, 'Otherwise don’t even start. This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives, and maybe even your mind. It could mean not eating for three or four days. It could mean freezing on a park bench. It could mean jail'...For most of my life, I’ve put a fair amount of effort into avoiding mistakes. From big ones (should I move across the country?) to small ones (is that comma in the right place?), I’m something of an over-thinker. Sometimes it’s a tendency that serves me well. Other times, I worry so much about the potential consequences of an action or decision that I err on the side of caution – or don’t end up doing anything at all."